Lots of people say, "Marriage is hard."
But that's because most don't have the relational skills necessary to make it easier, let alone baseline incredible.​​

Most premarital programs focus on compatibility through topics like values, kids, money and sex.
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Those conversations matter but they are not the foundation.
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Every topic, conversation and conflict is informed by something much deeper:
the way you relate.
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And relating is dictated by your nervous system states, relational patterns learned from childhood and the skill of repair.​
The fact is,
compatibility does not equal intimacy.
Relational skill does.
​This Bootcamp goes underneath all of the topics and impacts the
bedrock of how you relate.

And with that foundation, you can have a marriage that is baseline incredible and gets better from there,
including through hard things.
This is not a boring, sit and listen workshop.
It’s a relational immersion.
No compatibility testing, surface-level communication tips or how to "divide chores fairly."
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Think pulling back the curtain.
Discovering the intricacies of your particular dynamics.
Doing work at the deepest level and evolving into relational wizards.
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Featuring the best of Terry Real's, Relational Life Therapy, this Relationship Bootcamp walks you step-by-step through transformational work designed to set you on a trajectory for an incredible marriage full of connection, intimacy, and Love.​​​
What will it look and feel like?
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You'll engage with 14-18 hours of concentrated immersion that creates immediate shifts and prepares you for an baseline incredible marriage.
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You'll work alongside a small, curated cohort of other couples — witnessing them on their journey, which deepens your own. ​
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You'll experience everything you need to not just learn about relationality but embody it:​
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Real-time coaching and direct, personal attention
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Teaching, guided practices and skill development
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Conditions for healing and restoration
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Real-time integration so you can apply all that you gain
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You'll gain keys to an incredible partnership like:​
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The why, how, and what of relational living and the steps to embody it in daily life
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Demystifying your specific patterns ​keeping your relationship from even deeper connection and intimacy
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How to befriend and work with your parts who fight, withdrawal, control or fix when your partner does that thing.
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Relational skills that you'll practice in a supportive environment where you can risk, repair, and grow in real time
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This Relationship Bootcamp is for those who...

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Are dating seriously, engaged, discerning lifelong partnership or just-married
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Want an incredible marriage, not just a wedding
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Value growth, consciousness, and emotional depth
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Are willing to look at themselves, not just their partner
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Would rather consciously cultivate now than repair heartache later
It would be an honor to guide you.

I’ve spent 15+ years clearing the way for Love in my own life – and have trained in some of the most powerful, research-backed modalities for healing and transformation.​​


​My background and training also includes:
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Applied neurobiology
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Nervous system regulation (Certified in Somatic Experiencing)
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Parts work (like Internal Family Systems)
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Relational ecology (like attachment)
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Grounded spirituality and mysticism
I'm offering what my husband and I needed before marriage, not after.
We got married in 2020. Our 'premarital counseling' said we were compatible. And it's true — we are.
But we quickly discovered that, not only does compatibility not equip you to handle the shit that will hit the fan, it also doesn't equal a incredible marriage. It doesn't equal intimacy and connection.
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Let me say that again:
Compatibility does not create intimacy and connection.
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How you relate does.​

It wasn't until after we got married that we discovered true intimacy, authenticity, joy and connection is cultivated through relational living. It's not a by-product of compatibility.
And relational living takes skill.
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Now, thanks to our own journey (which included our own Bootcamp), our marriage's baseline is incredible and its only gotten better from there. ​​​​
More joy.
More fun.
More feeling known.
More magic.
More adventure.
More depth.
More contentment.
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More moving through conflict into greater connection instead of getting stuck and spinning our wheels in hard things, causing pain for ourselves and one another.
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Now I guide couples in their 1st year to their 30th+ year of marriage. They find me when their hanging on by a thread.
And by that time, there is a LOT of healing and repair to do.
​My intention for this Bootcamp is to swim upstream, before the literally insane divorce rates, to offer pre-marriage folks the tools, skills and experience of relational living so that your marriage can baseline incredible and just gets better from there.
I believe baseline incredible should be normal for marriage. Let's make that true for you, together.
Option 1:
Relationship Bootcamp
The Essential Skills Relationship Bootcamp equips you with all the skills needed to live relationally and build an incredible marriage.
Friday - Saturday
9:30 - 5:30p MT
Online
$1300 / Couple
We curate a small cohort for personalized environment therefore, very limited slots are available
At the end, you'll leave with:
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Named and shifted the patterns that keep you stuck in disconnection
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Practiced new ways of relating with live feedback and support
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Concrete tools to give feedback, repair, and stay connected
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Felt the embodied experience of relational safety — and how to return to it
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A sense of confidence and clarity that your marriage will be baseline incredible and just get better from there
Option 2:
Relationship Bootcamp +
Nervous System Regulation
A regulated nervous system
is necessary to live relationally.
If you don't yet know how to shift your nervous system into embodied connection, I highly recommend this option which includes an additional 1/2 day of content by CTW that will physiologically empower you to use the skills of the Bootcamp.
Friday - Saturday | 9:30 - 5:30p MT
Sunday | 9:00 - 1:00p MT
Online
$1600 / Couple
We curate a small cohort for personalized environment therefore, very limited slots are available
At the end, you'll leave with:
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Everything from the Bootcamp plus...
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Capacity to track your nervous system
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The ability to accurately identify when your physiology is out of a state of connection
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Practical and effective ways to repeatedly shift your system back into a state required for living relationally

