
Prepare for an incredible marriage that just gets better.
An immersive
Relationship Bootcamp
for dating, engaged and
just-married couples
Learn all you need to know about the Bootcamp,
Plus, get your first relational skill: the 4-Step Apology that actually repairs conflict so you can reconnect.
Discover how the Bootcamp can create a baseline incredible marriage, plus:
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What does (and doesn't) create an incredible marriage
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Why relational skills vs "compatibility"
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The 4-Step Apology that repairs almost any conflict - seriously
Lots of people say, "Marriage is hard."
But that's because most don't have the relational skills necessary to make it easier, let alone baseline incredible.​​

And most premarital programs focus on compatibility through topics like values, kids, money and sex.
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Those conversations matter but they are not the foundation.
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Every topic, conversation and conflict is informed by something much deeper:
the way you relate.
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And relating is dictated by your nervous system states, relational patterns learned from childhood and the skill of repair.​
The fact is,
compatibility does not equal intimacy.
Relational skill does.
​This Bootcamp goes underneath all of the topics and impacts the
bedrock of how you relate.

And with that foundation, you can have a marriage that is baseline incredible and gets better from there,
even through hard things.
This is not a boring, sit and listen workshop.
It’s a relational immersion.
No compatibility testing, surface-level communication tips or how to "divide chores fairly."
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Think pulling back the curtain.
Discovering the intricacies of your particular dynamics.
Doing work at the deepest level and evolving into relational wizards.
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As an official Relationship Bootcamp designed by Terry Real and Relational Life Therapy, it walks you step-by-step through transformational work designed to set you on a trajectory for an incredible marriage full of connection, intimacy, and Love.​​​
What a Bootcamp looks and feels like
You'll spend 14 - 18 hours of relational immersion full of direct, hands-on coaching, alongside a small, curated cohort of fellow travelers.
Together, we will:​
- Uncover the “why, how, and what” of relational living — and the exact steps to embody it in daily life
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- Demystify the dynamics and intricacies of your unique partnership that keep you from greater connection
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-Discover and befriend the parts of you who, on a bad day, would rather fight, withdrawal, stonewall, complain, control or fix when your partner does that thing
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- Learn the concrete relational skills that make repair, accountability, and intimacy possible
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- Experience relational skills from the inside out in a supportive environment with direct, hands-on coaching so you can risk, repair, and evolve in real time
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- Build the foundation that will enable every future conversation — from money to parenting to sex and everything in between
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This Relationship Bootcamp is for those who...

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Are dating seriously, engaged, discerning lifelong partnership or just-married (5 years or less)
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Want an incredible marriage, not just a wedding
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Value growth, consciousness, and emotional depth
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Are willing to look at themselves, not just their partner
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Would rather consciously cultivate now than repair heartache later
It would be an honor to guide you.

I’ve spent 15+ years clearing the way for Love in my own life – and have trained in some of the most powerful, research-backed modalities for healing and transformation.​​


​My background and training also includes:
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Applied neurobiology
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Nervous system regulation (Certified in Somatic Experiencing)
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Parts work (like Internal Family Systems)
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Relational ecology (like attachment)
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Grounded spirituality and mysticism
I'm offering what my husband and I needed before marriage, not after.
We got married in 2020. Our 'premarital counseling' said we were compatible. And it's true — we are.
But we quickly discovered that, not only does compatibility not equip you to handle the shit that will hit the fan, it also doesn't equal a incredible marriage. It doesn't equal intimacy and connection.
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Let me say that again:
Compatibility does not create intimacy and connection.
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How you relate does.​

It wasn't until after we got married that we discovered true intimacy, authenticity, joy and connection is cultivated through relational living. It's not a by-product of compatibility.
And relational living takes skill.
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Now, thanks to our own journey (which included our own Bootcamp), our marriage's baseline is incredible and it has only gotten better from there. ​​​​
More joy.
More fun.
More feeling known.
More magic.
More adventure.
More depth.
More contentment.
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More moving through conflict into greater connection instead of getting stuck and spinning our wheels in hard things, causing pain for ourselves and one another.
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Now I guide couples in their 1st year to their 30th+ year of marriage. They find me when they're hanging on by a thread.
And by that time, there is a LOT of healing and repair to do.
​My intention for this Bootcamp is to swim upstream, before the literally insane divorce rates, to offer pre-marriage folks the tools, skills and experience of relational living so that your marriage can baseline incredible and just gets better from there.
I believe baseline incredible should be normal for marriage. Let's make that true for yours, together.
Upcoming Bootcamps:
April 17 - 19 | July 17 - 19 | October 23-25
Option 1:
Relationship Bootcamp
The Essential Skills Relationship Bootcamp equips you with all the skills needed to live relationally and build an incredible marriage.
Friday - Saturday
9:30 - 5:30p MT
Online
$1400 / Couple
We curate a small cohort for personalized environment therefore, very limited slots are available
At the end, you'll have:
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Clarity and real shifts in the patterns that keep you stuck in disconnection
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Practiced new ways of relating honed through hands-on coaching and support
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Concrete tools to set boundaries, take timeouts, give feedback, proactively repair, and foster deep connection
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Felt the embodied experience of relational intimacy — and how to return to it
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A sense of confidence and clarity on how to actively participate in making your marriage baseline incredible so it can get even better from there
Option 2:
Relationship Bootcamp +
Nervous System Regulation +
CTW's Foundational Course
A regulated nervous system
is a prerequisite to living relationally.
If you don't yet know how to track and reliably shift your nervous system into connection, I highly recommend this option which includes an additional 1/2 day of additional experientials curated by CTW that will physiologically empower you to use the skills of the Bootcamp.
Friday - Saturday | 9:30 - 5:30p MT
Sunday | 9:00 - 1:00p MT
Online
$2000 / Couple
We curate a small cohort for personalized environment therefore, very limited slots are available
At the end, you'll have:
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Everything from the Bootcamp plus...
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A foundational understanding of the nervous system and how it functions in relationship
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Capacity to track your system and accurately identify when it is out of a state of connection
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Practical and effective ways to reliably shift your system back into connection which is required for relational living
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To continue and deepen your journey, you'll also receive access to CTW's Foundations course where you'll discover who Love is, what blocks you from receiving and how to clear the way using real, neurobiological mechanisms that create the conditions for a deeply mystical experience of receiving and embodying Love.
If you'd like to meet first, I welcome it.
Let's connect for a free 15-minute Curiosity Call. This is a space for us to get your questions answered and for you to sense if we're a match to walk this road together.
