Prepare for a
baseline incredible marriage
Learn to move through any argument, fight or conflict and back into connection for the rest of your lives
without shallow, cliché premarital counseling
**Pro tip: Put this on your registry**
Most premarital counseling focuses on compatibility.
How do you and your partner feel about kids? Finances? Sex?
How do your personalities 'fit'?
Where are your 'growth' areas.
Most will take you though a questionnaire, giving you 'insights' and then leave you at the alter, assuming you have enough to figure the rest of it out on your own.
But compatibility does not equal connection.
Moving through conflict does.
The problem with compatability based premarital counseling is that it assumes the higher the compatability, the less the conflict, the better the marriage.
You know what I say? BOLONGA.
Conflict actually makes your marriage even better IF you both know what to do to move through it.
It's over in 15-20 minutes and you feel even closer than when it started.
And the baseline of your marriage absolutely incredible - full of ease, joy and connection - and it gets even better from there.
But 99.9% of marriages don't know how to move through it.
When it comes to conflict, the majority of couples...
Think conflict shouldn't happen
"Truly happy married people don't fight."
Feel like something is inherently wrong
With themselves, their partner or their marriage as a whole none of which is true
Walk around on eggshells
Trying to avoid each other's triggers at all cost
Feel exhausted, frustrated and empty
And it leaks into other areas of life like family, work and general wellbeing
Loop over and over in the same fight
Same sh*t, different day, ya know what I mean?
Focus on their partner's 'problems'
Convinced their partner is the issue, they miss the gift hidden in the storm
Most married couples treat conflict as problem,
not a pathway but here's the truth...
When it comes to conflict, the majority of couples...
Think conflict shouldn't happen
"If we were meant to be then we wouldn't fight this much."
Feel like something is inherently wrong
With themselves, their partner or the relationship
Walk around on eggshells
Trying to avoid each other's triggers / conflict in general
Think relationships are just inherently 'hard'
And avoiding/getting stuck in conflict is what's expected in marriage
Loop over and over in the same fight
Same stuff, different day, ya know what I mean?
Focus on their partner's 'problems'
And miss the gift conflict can be
Most couples - especially in marriage - treat conflict as problem, not a pathway
but here's the truth...
Conflict isn't actually the problem.
Even the research shows it.
Psychologist and researcher, Dr. Ed Tronick found that...
Relationships can be misattuned, disconnected and in conflict up to 70% of the time and still be strong, stable and life-giving so long as they reliably know their way back to connection.
Based on his research, he posits - and I agree - that it’s connection AND conflict that builds intimacy, resilience and trust.
Which means conflict itself isn’t the problem...In fact, It’s essential.
So the question was never, "how do I STOP the fighting?"
The REAL question is...
How do you prepare for a marriage that moves through conflict so that you feel closer and more connected than before?
Because the hard reality is, unless you take direct action, you're most likely to repeat whatever you witnessed from your parents, no matter how compatible you are.
And if they didn't explicitly teach you how to move through conflict, unfortunately, you won't learn just by happenstance.
And, though well-intentioned, unfortunately most premarital counseling falls painfully short from teaching you exactly how to move through conflict well.
And that's when people usually find me and my work.
Because they know how they want their marriage to feel, they just need the map to get there.
Because you don't leave anything about your wedding day up to chance so why would you do that with your marriage?
This is your map for moving through conflict and into a baseline incredible marriage
- one full of intimacy, trust and connection -
that gets even better from there.
It's the same map that took us from feeling
like marriage was a mistake to our own version of
baseline incredible.
I wish we had it from the start. And now you can!
Our premarital counseling consisted of taking one of the most popular questionnaires.
It spit out all kinds of scores, graphs and measurements and confirmed what we already knew: we are 'compatible'.
We talked with our counselor about our 'growth' opportunities and then promptly trotted down the isle assuming we had everything we needed.
But just a few months into marriage and we started having arguments.
Small at first but instead of getting better, they kepy getting worse.
A couple months into our marriage, I literally remember thinking, "Shit, what did we just do? If this is forever, we're in big trouble."
Because compatibility does not prepare you for marriage.
Learning to use your conflict as a path to connection does.
Based our transformation and my work with couples, I created the map we needed from the start.
Hi, I'm Leah Dawang.
I'm a Relationship Restoration Guide and after nearly 20 years of my own relational journey including world renown training & tracking hundreds of conflicts...
I've developed a holistic map designed predictably and reliably move y'all through conflict and into connection so that you can prepare for the marriage of your dreams.
This journey weaves together some of the very best of what I’ve learned — not as techniques to apply, but as map back Home:
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Relational Life Therapy
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Applied neurobiology
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Nervous system regulation
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Somatic Experiencing
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Parts work / Internal Family Systems (IFS)
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Relational ecology
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Grounded spirituality and mysticism
It would be an honor to guide y'all.
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What happens when you use conflict as a path to connection?
You'll be able to bring up the real life things that could send any couple spiraling and not just talk but actually listen without getting defensive or shutting down.
It'll feel like you’re on the same team, predictably and reliably finding real solutions to life’s challenges.
You'll plan and dream for the future. You'll pursue passions and purpose.
And instead of avoiding or getting stuck in conflict, you'll experience...
More ease.
More joy.
More fun.
More feeling understood.
More magic.
More adventure.
More depth.
And when you do have conflict, you'll move through it in 15-20 minutes and feel even more connected than before it started.
You'll get tired of hearing
"You're such a great couple" ;)
After working with three couples therapists without much success, working with Clear The Way has been incredibly transformative for my relationship. It helped us rediscover a sense of closeness and connection that had felt out of reach for a long time. I would highly recommend working with her if you want to build a stronger, more connected relationship with your partner.
- Feyisayo, CTW client
Connection means different things for every couple but some of the most common experiences include...
Feeling seen and cared for even in the hard things
Focusing on your passions and purpose rather than fighting
Ease and peace, like there is space for you in your relationship
Overflowing with Love and giving it away to others
Talking about real life things that matter with ease
Laughing! Couples always talk about laughing more :)
Whatever it means to you, when you know your way through conflict, your marriage can be full of as much Love and connection as you want.
Introducing Conflict-To-Connection,
a comprehensive online training course that walks couples through a 3-step process to begin using conflict as a path to connection:
The 3 Step Process:
STEP 1: Vison cast for your baseline incredible marriage
Most people get married without a vision of just how good they want their lifelong partnership to be.
Or they think diving straight into what needs changing is what heals.
But they are wrong.
Instead, you need to agree on where you're going.
And just how good you want it to be.
And you can't just think about it.
Together, we'll go through a very specific process to make your vision come alive for your brain and body.
That way you always have north star for the journey.
STEP 2: Map your patterns
No matter how happily engaged you are, all relationships have conflict patterns and, if you don't know what they are, they will keep you from a baseline incredible marriage.
In this step, we discover the root causes of your patterns using:
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Relational Life Therapy (RLT) to shift relational dynamics and increase intimacy
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Somatic Experiencing® (SE) to track the nervous system
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Internal Family Systems (IFS) to befriend protective parts
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Attachment work to restore relational connection
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Neurobiology to work with your body/brain, not against it
We identify the root of your fights -
no guessing or blaming.
STEP 3: The 7 R's of Relating
In this step, you get a simple, clear, step-by-step process that is proven to move you though conflict without avoiding or getting stuck in it.
Because conflict and disconnection is not only inevitable in marriage but essential.
It's essential to our evolution and growth, both as individuals and a couple but if you don't know how to move through it, then it just sucks.
The 7 R's of Relating work with your neurobiological and attachment systems, rather than against them and guides you through the exact steps and sequence you need to transform your conflict into a portal - a doorway - back to connection.
So that you spend your marriage loving, not fighting ;)
After you have a predictable and reliable map to navigate through disconnection and into reconnection, your marriage can be as good as you want it to be.
So the seventh R will equip you with tools and skills to amplify and deepen your baseline incredible marriage.
Incredible will be your marriages norm and it will get even better from there.
Going through your journey, you'll get...
A crystal clear vision for your baseline incredible marriage
Lifetime access to a Guide who knows the way and is on the journey with you, not above you
Exact maps of your relational patterns that could keep you from the marriage you want
A community of like-hearted couples who celebrate, cheer you on, inspire you
The 7 R's of Relating, a reliable, step-by-step path through conflict and back into connection
Skills you'll need to cultivate a baseline incredible marriage that gets even better from there
Here's what you get when you join:
1. Seven training modules can you use immediately
Lifetime access to highly-practical and motivating videos to walk you through PRECISE strategies to move you through conflict and into connection.
2. Conflict-to-Connection exercises and templates
Practical step-by-step PDFs, exercises and pocket guides so you can actually implement and embody everything you've learned in the course.
3. Lifetime live Relational Recalibration & Coaching calls
Most couples are left to figure marriage out on their own. Not here!
Connect with me EVERY month for themed group coaching and Q&A sessions.
Celebrate your wins and relationship successes, bring your real-life questions and gain new insights and approaches to moving through conflict and into connection.
I teach main principles of Conflict-to-Connection, bring in fresh new ideas from everything I've learned in recent weeks, offer real-time demos and exercises and bring in other experts.
All so you can use conflict as a path to connection and cultivate the baseline incredible marriage you are made for.
All alongside a vibrant and inspiring community of like-hearted couples who are immersing themselves in the content alongside you.
What is a baseline incredible marriage worth to you?
Imagine...
They tell you how they're feeling and you're getting to know all new sides of them for years to come.
You share what's going on for you and they listen intently because you matter to them.
Y'all work through challenges with ease and confidence.
You actively cherish each other and aren't worried about your spark ever 'going away' because incredible is your baseline and it gets even better from there.
How good does that feel?
What's the value of that connection?
Y'all are worth a baseline incredible marriage. This is your path to get there.
Join the Conflict-to-Connection now
Choose the plan that's right for y'all and join us today
7-Day Money Back Guarantee
I am confident y'all will love and gain so much from this course and it will prepare you for an baseline incredible marriage...but if you're feeling uncertain, you can rest assured that I offer a rock-solid 7-day money back guarantee that makes this a 100% no-risk investment.
If y'all decide it's not for you, just let me know and I'll refund 100% of your tuition - no questions asked, no hard feelings, nothing but well wishes.
That's how confident I am in the quality of this program.
I want you to feel SO good about this investment in your relationship. So if you try it out and it isn't for you, nothing lost.
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