Use conflict as a path to
Love and connection,
not away from it
Stop avoiding or getting stuck in conflict and finally have
a relationship full of Love & connection without cliche communication tips or rehashing the same argument yet again.
Wouldn't it be nice if conflict made your relationship better, not worse?
You'd move through conflict in 15-20 minutes...
And feel even closer than when it started.
Your relationship would be full of ease, joy and connection, not in spite of conflict but because of it.
But that's not what happens in 99.9% of couples.
When it comes to conflict, the majority of couples...
Think conflict shouldn't happen
"If we were meant to be then we wouldn't fight this much."
Feel like something is inherently wrong
With themselves, their partner or their relationship as a whole
Walk around on eggshells
Trying to avoid each other's triggers or conflict in general
Feel exhausted, frustrated and empty
And it leaks into other areas of life like family, work and general wellbeing
Loop over and over in the same fight
Same sh*t, different day, ya know what I mean?
Focus on their partner's 'problems'
Convinced their partner is the issue, they miss the gift hidden in the storm
Most couples treat conflict as problem,
not a pathway but here's the truth...
Conflict isn't actually the problem.
In fact, it's essential.
Even the research shows it.
Psychologist and researcher, Dr. Ed Tronick found that...
Relationships can be misattuned, disconnected and in conflict up to 70% of the time and still be strong, stable and life-giving so long as they reliably know their way back to connection.
Based on his research, he posits - and I agree - that connection AND conflict build intimacy, resilience and trust.
Which means conflict itself isn’t the problem...In fact, It’s essential.
So the question was never, "how do I STOP the fighting?"
The REAL question is...
How do you move through conflict and feel closer and more connected than ever before?
Y'all may be struggling.
Maybe you're white knuckling it 'for the kids' or because breaking up would be 'too messy'
You might be wondering, "Why is this relationship so gosh darn hard?!"
Because the good times are genuinely wonderful but each time you hit yet another conflict, you wonder if your relationship is a mistake.
"If I was with the 'right' person, we wouldn't fight so much."
That's when people usually find me and my work.
And I know you don't want to break up but you also can't keep going like this.
This is your map for moving through conflict and into a baseline incredible relationship
- one full of intimacy, trust and connection -
that gets even better from there.
It's the same map that took us from feeling
like marriage was a mistake to our own version of
baseline incredible.
My husband and I love each other deeply but man, we can fight.
I'd want more connection. He'd shut down. I'd get loud. He'd shut down more. I'd get even louder until, eventually, I'd shut down too. And round and round we'd go.
We used to go at it for 4-5 days at a time, sometimes even longer.
Sound familiar?
At that point, we didn't have a map so we fumbled around, hurting ourselves and each other in the process.
Then we learned how to move though conflict and it was a game changer.
Based our transformation and my work with couples, I created the map we needed from the start.
Hi, I'm Leah Dawang.
I'm a Relationship Restoration Guide and after nearly 20 years of my own relational journey including world renown training & tracking hundreds of conflicts...
I've developed a holistic map designed predictably and reliably move y'all through conflict and into connection so that you can have the relationship you long for.
This journey weaves together some of the very best of what I’ve learned — not as techniques to apply, but as map back Home:
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Relational Life Therapy
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Applied neurobiology
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Nervous system regulation
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Somatic Experiencing
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Parts work / Internal Family Systems (IFS)
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Relational ecology
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Grounded spirituality and mysticism
It would be an honor to guide y'all.
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What happens when you use conflict as a path to connection?
You'll be able to bring up the real life things that would normally send you spiraling and not just talk but actually listen without getting defensive or shutting down.
It'll feel like you’re on the same team, finding real solutions to life’s challenges.
You'll plan and dream for the future.
And instead of avoiding or getting stuck, you'll experience...
More ease.
More joy.
More fun.
More feeling understood.
More magic.
More adventure.
More depth.
And when you do have conflict, you'll move through it within 15-20 minutes and feel even more connected than before it started.
You'll get tired of hearing,
"You're such a great couple!" ;)
After working with three couples therapists without much success, working with Clear The Way has been incredibly transformative for my relationship. It helped us rediscover a sense of closeness and connection that had felt out of reach for a long time. I would highly recommend working with her if you want to build a stronger, more connected relationship with your partner.
- Feyisayo, CTW Client
Connection means different things for every couple but some common experiences include...
Feeling seen and cared for even in the hard things
Focusing on your passions and purpose rather than fighting
More ease and peace, like there is space for you in your relationship
Overflowing with Love and giving it away to others
Talking about real life things that matter with ease
Laughing! Couples always talk about laughing more :)
Whatever it means to you, when you know your way through conflict, you can have as much of it as you want.
Introducing:
Conflict-To-Connection
A comprehensive online training course that walks couples through a 3-step process to turn conflict into a path to connection
STEP 1: Vison cast
Most people think diving straight into what needs adjusting is what heals.
But they are wrong. That only makes you more overwhelmed, more frustrated, more defensive.
Instead, you need to agree on where you're going.
And just how good you want your relationship to be.
Together, we'll cast a vision for your baseline incredible relationship through a very specific process to make it come alive for your brain and body.
That way you always have north star for the journey.
STEP 2: Map your relationship's patterns
All relationships have conflict patterns and, if you don't know what they are, they will absolutely keep you from baseline incredible.
In this step, we discover the root causes of your patterns drawing from:
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Relational Life Therapy (RLT) to shift relational dynamics and increase intimacy
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Somatic Experiencing® (SE) to track the nervous system
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Internal Family Systems (IFS) to befriend protective parts
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Attachment work to restore relational connection
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Neurobiology to work with your body/brain, not against it
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Nature-guided living to heal alongside the Living world with whom we are interconnected with
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Grounded spirituality and mysticism to relate to and be guided by the big Big (i.e. God, the Universe, Creator, Great Mystery, Love)
We identify the root of why you're stuck in conflict so you can stop guessing and blaming.
STEP 3: The 7 R's of Relating
In this step, you get a simple, clear, step-by-step process to move you though conflict without avoiding or getting stuck in it.
Because conflict and disconnection essential to our evolution and growth, both as individuals and a couple but if you don't know how to move through it, then it just sucks.
The 7 R's of Relating work with your brain, body and attachment systems, rather than against them and guides you through the exact steps and sequence you need to transform your conflict into a portal - a doorway - back to connection.
And then equip you with tools and skills to amplify and deepen your baseline incredible relationship so that it becomes your new norm - your baseline - and gets even better from there.
So that you can spend less time fighting and more time Loving.
As you move through your journey, you'll get...
A crystal clear vision for your baseline incredible relationship
Monthly access to a Guide who knows the way and is on the journey with you, not above you
Exact maps of your relational patterns that keep you from the relationship you want
A community of like-hearted couples who celebrate, cheer you on, inspire you
The 7 R's of Relating, a reliable, step-by-step path through conflict and back into connection
Skills you'll need to cultivate a baseline incredible relationship that gets even better from there
What's included:
Seven training modules can you use immediately
Lifetime access to highly-practical and motivating videos to walk you through PRECISE strategies to move you through conflict and into connection.
Conflict-to-Connection exercises and templates
Practical step-by-step PDFs, exercises and pocket guides so you can actually implement and embody everything you've learned in the course.
Lifetime access to live Relational Recalibration & Coaching calls
Connect with me EVERY month for themed group coaching and Q&A sessions
**First Wednesday from 5:30-7:00p MT
Celebrate your wins and relationship successes, bring your real-life questions and gain new insights and approaches to moving through conflict and into connection.
I take you deeper into specific principles and themes, bring in fresh new ideas from everything I've learned in recent weeks, offer real-time demos and bring in other experts.
All so you can use conflict as a path to connection and cultivate a baseline incredible relationship you are made for.
All alongside a vibrant and inspiring community of like-hearted couples who are immersing themselves in the content alongside you.
What is a baseline incredible relationship worth to you?
Imagine...
You're partner looks at you from across the kitchen, smiles and comes over for a hug for no other reason than because they love you.
Y'all work through challenges with ease and confidence.
And most of the time you're just goofing around, laughing and enjoying each other.
Incredible is your baseline and it gets even better from there.
Y'all are worth a baseline incredible relationship. This is your path to get there.
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Once you're in, you're in.
7-Day Money Back Guarantee
I am confident this program will transform your relationship and if y'all decide it's not for you, just let me know within your first 7 days and I'll refund you in full - no questions asked, no hard feelings.
I want you to feel SO good about this investment in your relationship. So if you try it out and it isn't for you, nothing lost.
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